#METOO – Why the Silence of Sexually Violated Victims– MeToo, One Reason
There are many reasons why victims of sexual abuse #METOO and other forms of abuse stay silent, #WhyIDidntReport. In this blog, I want to talk about one less talked about reason and bring it to light.
I have been debating with myself whether I should write on this sensitive topic and how to present it.
However, a few days ago, a middle-aged gentleman doing some work where I was asked, “what I don’t understand is, why did she waited 36 years before saying anything?” He was referring to Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. I gave him my point of view and after some thoughtful looks, he said to me, “now with that explanation, it makes sense to me.”
This feedback from this gentleman might have been the validation I needed to build the courage to write on this topic.
If you listened to her testimony (Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s), you will both see and hear something happened to her. Something so bad, it looks like it still needs to be shaken off of her. She is not alone!
This blog is to give one reason I have not heard discussed in these painful situations. This will just be a scratch of the topic.
If you are wondering what topic and situation, it is why sexually violated victims do not report or talk about it ever or for many, many years. Recently with the #METOO movement, a lot of sexual abuse cases of long ago are coming to light. There are many forms of sexual violations not limited to sexual harassment, sexual assault, rape, unwelcomed touches, body movements to give a message and more. Hope this article shades a little light on #WhyIStayed, #WhyIDidntReport.
To evaluate what I am about to put forth, the first thing to understand is that we are spiritual beings using a physical body to do things in the physical plane…earth. While we may not see them, God’s angels and demons are around us round the clock. These are sometimes referred to as energies.
Sometimes, just talking about the abuse in some cases, heals the victims. In the Bible, John 8:32 (KJV) says, “And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” But why don’t we speak this truth and bring it to light sooner is the issue I want to deal with. Because when light is shed on a situation, illumination comes with freedom, so one would reason, just tell the truth. But as we see, the victims’ mouths and minds are shut and locked up. But by whom?
These spiritual energies need a body to operate through, to attach to, or live in. The Bible says when a man and a woman come together intimately, “the two shall become one”
Mark 10: 8 “and the two will become one flesh.’ So, they are no longer two, but one flesh.”
The marital gavel in the Bible is the sexual act. You may say, in some cases there was no consummation, thus no marriage. But there was; as Jesus said, in Matthew 5: 28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
How the Dog Became a Domestic Animal and Your Personal Constitution
New Book – How the Dog Became a Domestic Animal
ReClaim Your Life Tip For This Week: Have a Personal Constitution.
In my new book “How the Dog Became a Domestic Animal,’ the animals decide to crown a king and set a constitution to rule their kingdom and the consequences if violated. The animal that ends up violating one of the rules punishable by death is not the one that gets punished as he is a manipulator.
Without giving the story away so you can enjoy it, the dog gets caught in the middle of this setup. Fables and folktales are meant for entertainment and also to teach life lessons and success strategies. One lesson from this story is to figure out why the dog was so gullible. Did he have his own code of conduct to govern his life?
In my book “Love Under the Kola Nut Tree. What City Moms Didn’t Tell You About Creating Fulfilling Relationships,” the topic of a having Personal Constitution is discussed. These could be personal rules and ethical values that guide your daily personal, relationship, health, family, spiritual, financial, and cooperate life. For example, when I was in college, I had a rule that said when my alarm clock came up in the morning, I will not snooze or shut it off and go back to sleep. I had to get up, period; even if, I had only three or four hours of sleep!
This rule came from snoozing and thus waking up late and missing the bus to the train station. This meant I missed the train I had to take after that bus ride and then I missed the bus to school I had to take after the train ride! This lead to me being late for class and lab work. Late arrivals to a computer science class had serious consequences. Creating a rule that governed my life, though very tough, helped me. I remember waking up and I’ll be crying in the shower before going to school. I cried because I was very sleep and I needed more sleep but I had paid for my tuition by working late into the night after school.
In my new book “How the Dog Became a Domestic Animal,” we find that some animals, loved to be friendly, petted, played with, fed, given a ride, were proud, were too trusting without vetting, or gossiped. These character traits were understood by their enemies and subsequently used against them.!
To Reclaim your life, have rules and values that govern you; things you would do or not do. This personal constitution only works if you honor the rules and values therein. In the spiritual realm, your word and the meditations of your heart are a bound; no signatures are needed. If we are not conscious, you inadvertently and unconsciously give others permission to impose their own subtle and sometimes blatant values and codes upon your life. We might blame them later, forgetting we have not set our own boundaries by knowing and acting who we are, being guided by our own personal constitution.
Look around your life at many of the things and people, friends and associates; how did they come to be at the influencing level they are in your life today? How did those lunch discussions and language evolve to where it is today? How did your finances or health become as it is today; whether positive or not where you want.
If you don’t like the answers you get to these questions (add more questions to them,) then check your personal constitution. It may be time to update or create one. Snap out of the hypnotic rhythm you have been in. On your journey to reclaim your life