#METOO-Why the Silence of Sexually Violated Victims-One Reason

#METOO-Why the Silence of Sexually Violated Victims-One Reason

#METOO – Why the Silence of Sexually Violated Victims– MeToo, One Reason

There are many reasons why victims of sexual abuse #METOO and other forms of abuse stay silent, #WhyIDidntReport. In this blog, I want to talk about one less talked about reason and bring it to light.

I have been debating with myself whether I should write on this sensitive topic and how to present it.
However, a few days ago, a middle-aged gentleman doing some work where I was asked, “what I don’t understand is, why did she waited 36 years before saying anything?” He was referring to Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. I gave him my point of view and after some thoughtful looks, he said to me, “now with that explanation, it makes sense to me.”

This feedback from this gentleman might have been the validation I needed to build the courage to write on this topic.

If you listened to her testimony (Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s), you will both see and hear something happened to her. Something so bad, it looks like it still needs to be shaken off of her. She is not alone!

This blog is to give one reason I have not heard discussed in these painful situations. This will just be a scratch of the topic.

If you are wondering what topic and situation, it is why sexually violated victims do not report or talk about it ever or for many, many years. Recently with the #METOO movement, a lot of sexual abuse cases of long ago are coming to light. There are many forms of sexual violations not limited to sexual harassment, sexual assault, rape, unwelcomed touches, body movements to give a message and more. Hope this article shades a little light on #WhyIStayed, #WhyIDidntReport.

To evaluate what I am about to put forth, the first thing to understand is that we are spiritual beings using a physical body to do things in the physical plane…earth. While we may not see them, God’s angels and demons are around us round the clock. These are sometimes referred to as energies.

Sometimes, just talking about the abuse in some cases, heals the victims. In the Bible, John 8:32 (KJV) says, “And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” But why don’t we speak this truth and bring it to light sooner is the issue I want to deal with. Because when light is shed on a situation, illumination comes with freedom, so one would reason, just tell the truth. But as we see, the victims’ mouths and minds are shut and locked up. But by whom?

These spiritual energies need a body to operate through, to attach to, or live in. The Bible says when a man and a woman come together intimately, “the two shall become one”

Mark 10: 8 “and the two will become one flesh.’ So, they are no longer two, but one flesh.”

The marital gavel in the Bible is the sexual act. You may say, in some cases there was no consummation, thus no marriage. But there was; as Jesus said, in Matthew 5: 28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

A Time to Cultivate

A Time to Cultivate

When spring season comes, there is renewal and growth. Depending on where you are physically, spiritually, mentally, business wise, relationship or health wise cultivation is always necessary.

The cycles of nature guide us to become what has already been programmed in us just as one kernel of corn becomes ears of corn on the cob with hundreds of kernels. Multiplication always happens when we cultivate. God creates addition, yet He prefers by multiplication.

In this video, I join farmers physically cultivating the soil so when the rains come they would be ready to plant. So, in our aspirations, there is always a time to cultivate. If we work out of season, we may not get a yield or a good one and this might also lead to stress, anxiety, lost profits and more.

Read below this excerpt from my book Love Under the Kola Nut Tree. What City Moms Didn’t Tell You About Creating Fulfilling Relationships about another level of cultivation.

“To be able to commune with nature and learn from it and use this knowledge daily, you have to cultivate your spirit. This means you have to acknowledge you are a spirit, know your spirit nature, and know yourself. You have to empty out stuff and junk so you can fill yourself with love, light, and wisdom.

When you plant one grain of corn, you always harvest more than one grain. Birds migrate and come back at the end of the season in greater numbers. Thoughts are the same; they are like the grain that we plant and then harvest at the end of the season, but always in multiple fold. That is a law of nature and you can use it beneficially to your relationships or to their detriment. The only way you can live in harmony is to cultivate harmonious thoughts and deeds.

Cultivating harmonious thoughts takes practice but more importantly a choice to cultivate them. Our experiences in life are a consequence of the choices that we make daily, hourly, and every minute.” – Excerpt from Love Under the Kola Nut Tree. What City Moms Didn’t Tell You About Creating Fulfilling Relationships – By Esther Lamnyam; grab your copy today on amazon.com.

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